This decade, the forties, have definitely been the best of my life. There are so many things that I learned, about myself and others that are now serving me.
My youth and teenage years are a complete blur. I moved from America to England practically every year, going to 10+ schools.
In my twenties I moulded to others needs and desires so that I would be liked. I agreed with everyone around me as to how or what to do and became pray to bullies and dominators.
In my thirties I went all the way the other side! I was overly self expressed and pushy. It was my way or the highway for most of those years. I had no ability to understand another's point of view.
When I turned 40, not only do I know my own opinion, but I also realise that someone else's polar opposite opinion can also be just as valid, from the context they are standing on. That I get to choose whom I spend my time with and who I delete from my life. That as long as my preferences are being actualised from a place of deep knowing and not from fear or external persuasion, that I can choose whatever I want for myself.
Now, I look younger, am happier and sweeter for sure! Since I have been living "in the flow" from my "knowing" - life is abundant and fun. And the more quiet time I allow in my life (meditating, walking in nature or journalling), the deeper I hear my internal voice.