We often believe that our own opinions are the absolute truth. This is a problem. The issue with thinking that my thoughts and judgements are correct is that when someone has a differing view or behaves out of alignment with my personal rules of engagement - I get upset. I throw up a disappointed eyebrow, or sigh heavily or even make a request for them to stop. But how is that working for me?
I am currently in Miami, lying by a deserted pool, except two other people. A teenage boy and his little brother who is about 5 or 6 years old. The young boy is running around, bombing into the pool and talking at the top of his lungs (in Spanish).
This is where my mind started going:
- he's being so loud
- where are their parents?
- he's going to hurt himself
- English children aren't this loud
- it was so peaceful before he got here
And so on....my beautiful time basking in the sun was being RUINED......BY ME!!!
You see - I have crowned myself Queen Adeline - the ruler of my own happiness. And all of these thoughts were not in allignment with BLiSS. And the good news is that I am the author, director and producer of my own thoughts - so I immediately redirected them.
- he is having such a good time!
- he is so handsome!
- he is safe!
- he's going to be an athlete!
- he has a cute voice!
- he is lucky that his big brother is playing with him!
- I am so grateful to be in Miami with my husband in a gorgeous hotel!
- I'm going to jump into the pool too!!!
You see...in seconds with nearly no effort I now have a big smile on my face.
If you are feeling frustrated or aggravated - take just a moment to "change your mind" about your opinions that are not serving you.