Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Friend + Family Relationships : Generosity

If you were spending time with your loved ones, and you were coming from a place of only pure love, how would that affect your behavior towards them?  Would you be sitting there listening and tutting or rolling your eyes?  I don't think so!  What about disagreeing with their point of view?  Is that necessary   How about using the old psychology system of:

Mirror
Validate
Empathize

If someone is speaking they don't just want to be listened to, they want to be heard.  What is the difference?  A pure genuine curiosity to understand where they are coming from, how they are viewing the situation and that there view and experience is completely valid.  That is how connection is created, by two people really feeling each other.  

Does that mean that you have to agree with everything everyone else believes?  Of course not!  But how about trying to step into their shoes and see why they see it that way?  How about accepting that we are all on our own individual journey's and therefore will learn our lessons at different rates and speeds?  How about letting them know that you love them no matter what the filter they see the world through!

I absolutely love this quote:



Now, go and practice unconditional and generous love!


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