Not through forgiveness. Or acceptance. But finding a way to LOVE (even if you are disappointed, hurt, angry, fearful, tired, disrespected, pained).
Two days ago I was having a heated text conversation with a friend (always bad to text in those situations). She was getting angry and I was getting frustrated too. She didn't feel heard. She felt like I didn't care about her predicament. I felt she let me down. That she wasn't willing to compromise. It was as if we were speaking two different languages. I wasn't understanding her pain and she wasn't feeling my fear.
Just as I was about to blow my top and call her and give her a piece of my mind - I took a few breaths. Here is the mantra that I repeated while breathing deeply;
"Love in, anger out, love in, anger out, love in, anger out, love in, anger out, love in, anger out, love in, anger out, love in, anger out."
As I breathed in I thought of all if the beautiful things about her. She is so sweet. So talented. So loving. So kind. So generous. A good mother. A good friend. Her sexy voice and beautiful skin.
I called her and apologized for having this conversation over text message. And then I asked her what was going on in her life. As she explained, my heart poured open allowing myself to feel her current anxiety. I could clearing see how my demands felt cold and selfish.
I clearly communicates my deep empathy and validated her point of view - authentically!
We came to a solution and I feel more connected to her now than I did before this experience.
Generosity in relationships is a funny thing, it always comes back to bond you!!! What can you do in your relationships to add love?