Do you say NO a lot?

I have noticed myself saying "No" a lot lately.  So I thought about it, why am I doing this?  Here is what I came up with:

- out of fear (of getting hurt, of trying something new, losing control)
- out of wanting my way (or the highway)
- to be right (my point of view not yours)
- to get you back (you said no to me remember?)

Well, I don't want to do that anymore.  I am proclaiming a new way of being for me, and perhaps you too?  A simple strategy:

It's time to say YES!

Yes to life.
Yes to your friends.
Yes to your family.
Yes to your partner.
Yes to your kids.
Yes to your co-workers.
Yes to your country.
Yes to the world!

Maybe it's time to take responsibility for your happiness.  

Say YES to healthy eating habits.
Say YES to being a contribution to your community.
Say YES to being kind to your family.
Say YES to your lover.
Say YES to personal growth.
Say YES to meditation.
Say YES to your boss.
Say YES to your savings account.
Say YES to your social life.
Say YES to keeping your home tidy.
Say YES to staying turned on.
Say YES to taking care of your body (inside and out).
Yes YES to being HAPPY!

Every NO that you say will have a direct and equal NO given back to you from the world!  The more you flow with life, swim with the tide and be kind and light, the more life will deliver abundance and sweetness.

It's the season for giving.  The season for opening your heart.  The season for generosity.  The season for love.

Forgive yourself.  Forgive others.  Just be a YES from now on!

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You don't need to say it!

I used to be a professional poker player.  That is, I derived my income from playing at the tables of Commerce Casino, Bicycle Club, Hawaiian Gardens, Crystal Park and later on in Vegas as Bellagio, Palms, Mirage and Binions too!  It was an interesting time in my life.  One of deep study of human nature!

My mathematical background was definitely useful in the game of poker, but, by far, it was my ability to see patterns in human behavior and feel the temperature of the table that enabled me to win over and over again.

The more you put yourself out there at the table, the more information you are giving to your opponents.  If you talk, move around, eat, drink or have any type of twitch, every little things is a "tell".  It is a revealing piece of information that helps the professionals understand who you are and therefore how you play. 

Your words and your actions determine who you are at the poker table.

This is the same in life, you can think whatever you want!  You can wish death on someone, but it is when you say it out loud that you are now effecting those around you.  Your action or inaction can cause pain, but thoughts alone are harmless.  You have had people say, "fake it until you make it", well, that means however you mad you are at your friend, partner or family member, if you just "act" happy, loving and generous, you will actually get there.  Because words and actions are way more powerful than thoughts.  I wholeheartedly dissagree with the assertion that "it's the thought that counts"! Or another one that I hear often is, "she has such a good HEART"!  That means she is a mean bully but underneath she is kind.  NOPE!!  

Just as like on the poker table, you don't win or lose until you take the chips off of the table - in life, you also can't win or lose until you say it or do it.

So, your words and actions are very powerful, are you going to choose positive or negative today?

Someone asked my how I keep such a good attitude. Another asked me how I keep my skin looking so lovely. And then still another how my eyes always shine.

It's not that my life is always perfect, however in the last 10 years it has considerable changed for the better! I have learned (and am still learning) how to improve my success and happiness in life. After all - everyone around me benefits!

Here are my answers;

1. Emotional: meditate, journal, be kind, serve your family, friends and community. Forgive yourself for your past transgressions. Look for the gift in bad situations.

2. Financial: have savings: spend much less than you earn. NO DEBT!!

3. Environment: surround yourself with family and friends who are sweet and loving. Keep your home, car and office in order. Fix anything that is broken immediately. Donate items that you don't use to clear space!

4. Intellectual: constantly challenge yourself to grow. Read, learn, risk and have fun! Do something every day that is your genius!

5. Mental health: keep an eye on how you treat people and yourself. Learn tools to help you be the observer of your life. Learn to breath deeply. Don't constantly alter your state of being (with alcohol, coffee, TV, sugar or drugs). Take time to unwind in a healthy way.

6. Physical: take a stroll every day. Enjoy nature and you walk. Eat clean (as much as you can)! The brown stuff is "Khichadi" recipe from The Hot Belly book.