Over my adult life if I have spoken in the moments of being angry or triggered - I normally didn't say something constructive or sweet.
And I have also noticed that other people do the same thing. If they are:
They are not going to be considerate or thoughtful.
So instead of reacting - I am learning to realize that their mean words are not personal - it's what is going on for them!
I practice being BLiSS in the face of turmoil - it helps me to know
that I can be happy and sweet no matter how rude, wrong or unkind they
are. At the end of the evening - I know who I was today - and my
conscience is clear.