Envy and jealousy.

It's important to pay attention to the thoughts and pictures that are flowing through our heads that are causing pain or inaction.  It can be easy to get negative, blame others or use excuses to avoid living a vibrant and exciting life.

My main job in life is to ensure my happiness - so that in turn I can be a contribution to my family, friends and community.  After all - I can only be the best person if I am brimming with self love, compassion for myself and others and have a sense that everything is well for myself and others too.  There is a huge element of trust that needs to be embodied.  And finally gratitude.

When emotions of fear, regret, anger, sadness, envy, disappointment, shame, jealousy or unjustness enfold my being - I become useless and de-energized. 

Luckily- I have learned to use my FEELINGS as a compass to direct my thoughts which in turn translate into actions which create my experiences in life.  In any part of that cycle - feelings, thoughts or actions - I get to interrupt and redirect to be more joyous.

Look at what happens with these monkeys:

https://youtu.be/meiU6TxysCg

Let's rise above looking to others for our BLiSS and TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY for our own existence.

Are you ready to choose BLiSS?

My primary life's mission:  to live a life of BLiSS!!!

To remain elated, turned on, excited, enthusiastic, harmonious, calm, confident, hopeful, joyful, fun, safe, authentic, loving, generous, kind, healthy, creative, playful, eager, funny and very very grateful.

And my thoughts, actions and words are the practice of staying in these feelings.  In this desire to have a happy life and be a happy person - I choose to spend time with those on this path too.  

I wear my beautiful hand jewel to remember my commitment all day long.  In the shower, at home and when I am out, I see the Sanskrit word "Ananda" meaning BLiSS and I smile - knowing the because this is the path that I have chosen - this is the life that unfolds for me.

It is effortless.  I seem to be getting "lucky" to other people.  But NO - it's my energy that is attracting like energy.  There is endless love and abundance available to all of us.  We are ALL this POWERFUL.

This is my ONE life - I am going to fully enjoy it.  And I am doing it MY way.

#BLiSSbyAdeline #yummyroastedveggies #handjewel #whitegold #blackdiamond 

Presence to Gratitude

Today before you think of saying an unkind word – think of someone who can’t speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food – think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your spouse or partner – think of someone who is desperately wanting a companion.

Today before you complain about life – think of someone who has passed away.

Before you complain about your children - think of someone who desires children but can't have them.

Before you complain about your childhood and parents - think of a child that had it worse than you and didn't make it.

Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep - think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive – think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet with no car.

And when you are tired and complain about your job – think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down – put a smile on your face and go do something for your someone more needy than you!

Life is an incredible gift - if you can see it that way!!!  Just take some time to smell the roses!!!

My gold Sanskrit Ananda hand jewel as a reminder to BE BLiSS!!!

Life is short.

I truly believe that the whole point of our existence is to LOVE and HAVE FUN.  Now - it does take some thinking and consciousness to ascertain what lasting joy looks like for YOU - as we are all individuals with our own tastes and desires. So the key is to follow these simple steps:


1.  Learn to be the master of your mind - to be able to silence it - so that you can connect more with your soul (aka gut, inner knowing, intuition etc).  This can be done a variety of ways but the ones that have worked for me is disconnecting from electronics and either walking through nature, doing hot yoga or meditating.


2.  Practice feeling sensations in your body to alert you of what you should do more of, who you should spend time with and what energizes you physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.  You can start this by taking notice of how people or foods affect you.  Keep a journal so that you can relate the experiences with the feelings.


3.  Get intentional about your life.  Now that you have quieted your mind and learned to listen for your passions, it's time to put that into practice.  Spend time with people that inspire love.  Do creative things that make you smile.  Eat foods that help you feel light and airy.  Move your body through an exercise that excites you.  Make your money through a cause that you truly believe in.  Make the most of every second that you have breath.


And through this process make sure to BE KIND.  To yourself.  To others.  Enjoy it all - especially the contrasts.

(This is my hand-let 7 chakra BLiSS by Adeline gold jewel) in my sweet ride!!!
Only available at www.BLiSSbyAdeline.com

LOVE over hate. Please!

How would you like it if somebody called you a racist? Or prejudice? Or sexist? Do you think that you are any of those things?

Well to me - if you are bashing someone else for their views - then maybe it's YOU that needs checking?

The most important thing to have a BLiSSful life is to have HARMONY with what is.  Peace and love are available to ALL of us if we UNITE.

Think U.U. What is best for the Universal Upliftment of all people and environment today?

I don't have to have the same view as you in order to love you.

It is VERY DIVISIVE to bash people for their religious beliefs, political views, eating choices etc.  If you believe that you have a better way to live - and someone ASKS you for help - yes - share it - but don't PUT OTHER PEOPLE DOWN for their views.

There is so much hate out there - we don't need to perpetuate it.

Consider that YOU may be wrong about your views.  Or better still you may be 100% RIGHT however it's not the time for that person to realize the truth yet. 

When you are mean about other people's ethics and choices you are harboring bad energy for yourself, your friends, your community and you are reflecting on your family, culture and society.

If you want to communicate - be peaceful and positive - it will be much more influential- and keep the stress out of your life too.

Don't get mad - get compassion and understanding.  Instead of "being right" how about being kind?

(Obviously this doesn't apply to illegal activity which should be reported immediately).

Give up the HATE.  Be L❤️VE.

Or not.  It's up to you.

Pictured here is my contribution to the environment.  I reclaim shower doors, smash them, and then tack fuse them to make works of art.  See my process here.

  

Live your ultimate life - NOW!!!

At the end of last year my Doctor tested me for a terminal disease.  There was a chance I was going to die in one year if the results were positive (well positively negative ha).

In the three days that I had to wait for the results - I had some time to think.  What would I do differently if I only had one year to live?  What would I have regrets about?  It was an interesting exercise.

What I realized is that I am living my life EXACTLY like I would if I had one year left.  I put fresh fragrant flowers in my home.  I love fully and openly.  I am playful with my friends and husband.  I show my gratitude freely.  I am generous and kind.  I stay in frequent touch with my friends and family.  I apologize quickly.  I laugh loudly.  I am reliable, loyal and have integrity.  I authentically express my creativity through my art, jewels, chocolate and book "I ❤️ MY DOUBLES PARTNER!!!".

I am literally living a BLISSFUL life.  BLiSS by Adeline that is!

So the results came in and I am fine (for now - we all die at some point), but I am so glad to know that I am not taking my breath for granted.  

I am honoring my existence by living passionately in every waking moment.

Take a moment to look at your life - are you happy with it?

News or Gossip?

Yesterday at a Super Bowl party - a woman shared a rumor that she heard about me.  It was very distressing for me to hear it.  And it was completely untrue.

I felt a little blue today - pondering the reason behind the gossip - and also why this person decided to share it with me?  What were her motivations?

And then I looked back at other interactions that I've had with her.  And I determined that her words and actions have leaned towards jealousy and negativity around me.  That explains why she would say something so hurtful to me.  

But she's not a liar - so where did this information stem from?

I then looked at the source of that.  The people that were involved are middle aged drinkers.  Bar peeps.  They get obliterated at least once a week.  And all sorts of odd things happen after they are over served by the eager bartender. So it was meaningless.  It held no weight.  There was nothing more to do there.

And finally I looked at myself.  Where do I gossip versus just being informing of news?  The distinction is when I open my mouth to share information - is it to help - or to hurt?  Am I putting someone else down in an attempt to elevate myself?  If so - then how about looking AT THAT instead of hurting others?  

And so with this new insight - it's time to make some amends.  To own up to the victims of my meanness - apologize - and then forgive myself and move on.

And finally stop gossiping.  It's hurtful.  It hurts my Sisters and Brothers.  And it hurts me too.  Because we are all ONE.

At the end of the day when I rest my head to sleep I want to be clear of conscious with peace of mind.

Time to open my heart and LOVE more.

Push yourself for the better!!!

I remember the first time I ever played tennis.  I was 195 lbs and very unhappily married.  As a way to lose weight at the age of 35 I took up tennis.

Every night after playing I would cry as I bathed.  It was frustrating that I could not hit the ball in court.  That I was so heavy that I had trouble running.  That I got out of breath in points.  That I consistently lists. That I had aches and pains all over.

But I am so glad that I pushed through.  Tennis gave me:

- my BEST friends

- my new healthy body 143 lbs

- stamina

- a reason to quit smoking

- a fun hobby

- the gift of presence 

- my new amazing husband (and his incredible loving family)

- enough fun to write an inspirational tennis booked called "I ❤️ MY DOUBLES PARTNER!!!" 

Yes - I could have stayed fat, unhealthy and miserable - it would have been easier to continue watching 6 hours of TV a night with my ex husband and eating crisps.  But I am SO GLAD that I stepped outside of my box and made this great effort - because I WAS WORTH IT!!!

Want to fall asleep easier?

I saw this illustration on Facebook today and I remembered that I used to have a problem falling asleep!!!  My mind would go crazy thinking about the past or the future.  Just as I got to bed it would begin, the fear or stories, and then I would get upset at it and fight it, which in turn worsened it.

Actually, my whole day used to be ruined by my very loud internal chatter.  Everyone I met was either a friend or an enemy- and I felt a hurried need to decide which they were.  Every experience was analysed to determine if it was good and bad.  It was exhausting. Right or wrong.  Black or white.

The beginning of my mind taming was meditation.  Having daily quiet time where I could hear my thoughts clearly was the first step.  Then I began journalling free form.  And finally I used this information to discern my commitment to BLiSS and I learned to redirect my thoughts to ones that served my happiness!!! 

As my thoughts improved so did my words and actions which led to increased self love and confidence which resulted in an inside out joy that I was looking for.

And as I increased this state - the bullies and unkind people and negative experiences seemed to float away from me.  It was replaced with kind, generous and unconditionally loving people and lucky and fun experiences.  This is not a coincidence- this is by my design.

You see - this is MY life and I own it fully!!!

A time for Peace.

We often believe that our own opinions are the absolute truth. This is a problem. The issue with thinking that my thoughts and judgements are correct is that when someone has a differing view or behaves out of alignment with my personal rules of engagement - I get upset.  I throw up a disappointed eyebrow, or sigh heavily or even make a request for them to stop. But how is that working for me?

I am currently in Miami, lying by a deserted pool, except two other people.  A teenage boy and his little brother who is about 5 or 6 years old.  The young boy is running around, bombing into the pool and talking at the top of his lungs (in Spanish).  

This is where my mind started going:

- he's being so loud

- where are their parents?

- he's going to hurt himself

- English children aren't this loud

- it was so peaceful before he got here

And so on....my beautiful time basking in the sun was being RUINED......BY ME!!!

You see - I have crowned myself Queen Adeline - the ruler of my own happiness.  And all of these thoughts were not in allignment with BLiSS.  And the good news is that I am the author, director and producer of my own thoughts - so I immediately redirected them.

- he is having such a good time!

- he is so handsome!

- he is safe!

- he's going to be an athlete!

- he has a cute voice!

- he is lucky that his big brother is playing with him!

- I am so grateful to be in Miami with my husband in a gorgeous hotel!

- I'm going to jump into the pool too!!!

You see...in seconds with nearly no effort I now have a big smile on my face.

If you are feeling frustrated or aggravated - take just a moment to "change your mind" about your opinions that are not serving you.

2016 is here already!!!

It is now 2016 and I am setting my intentions for the year.  The reason I am not writing "resolutions" is because I feel that nothing is resolute (except my commitment to happiness).  So instead I will use the insights that I learn to stay in my BLiSS.

1.  Mastering the art of "letting go". Disappointments are the result of unmet expectations of people - which for me have resulted in pain.  This year I will focus on the good of my loved ones and practice releasing past hurts.  I will not take things personally.

2.  Using my judgements to better myself.  I will become curious about my own thoughts and convert them into powerful lessons to be a better person.  I will realize that me judging is the same thing that they are doing that is upsetting me and release negative thoughts knowing that all is well.

3.  Being healthy from the inside out.  I will be very in touch with my body's needs from the fuel I put in to the exercise that I do. 

4.  Being unconditionally giving.  I know that I am abundantly wealthy and so I will give freely of my love and knowledge when it is requested.

5.  Catering to my happiness.  I will spend my time with people who are elevating and and I will spend time consciously uplifting my friends too.  I will build the muscle of positive and loving thinking!

6.  A deep focus on gratitude.  I will continue my attitude of gratefulness when I redirect negative thoughts to realizations of my wonderful gifts!  This is a heart opening focus.

7.  A focus on what I want.  I will plan my actions and implement my strategies without attachment to continue my purposes.  I will be authentically fully self expressed!

This year will be a continuation of loving freely and connecting with the flow of life. In my daily life I will spread happiness to al of my environment. My journey is a practice of total BLiSS!